This comment was originally posted on an earlier post, but I thought I’d bring it out here for everyone to comment on:
Yusuf Bobat says:
hey guys i wonder if you could help me, im 16. and i love bjj. ive been doing it for almost two years. my parents only let me train jits once a week,and obviously once a week is not enough, at all. if i had my way i’d be doing it every single day. i have like 3 really really good grapplers at my school, sometimes we roll. i have no brothers:( and i cant roll with my dad hes too busy, i do solo drills as much as i can. do you have any advice?
This may not be an answer you like, but, since you’re a minor in your parents’ house, they make the rules. If they say you can only train once a week, then that’s what you get. You didn’t mention what their rational is for this restriction, but they probably have at least a reason beyond “because we said so.”
Still, I’m all for making a case of “Hey, Parents, I really like training BJJ, and I would like to train more often. Is there anything I can do to make that happen?” Chores around the house, good grades, a part-time job to pay for training (and/or for a car to drive yourself, if that’s an option, or to afford other transportation), arranging alternate transportation — whatever the roadblock to training more is, is there anything you can do to remove or alleviate that? If the issue is the cost of training, is there anything at the academy that you can do to offset that? But be prepared for them to hold their ground. And if they do, also be prepared to have a good attitude about it, even if you don’t agree with their decision.
When you are in the academy, have a plan for any time that isn’t class time. Have something that you want to drill, questions you want answered, or a situational sparring scenario to work on. Drill with the idea of making every rep count. Ask questions when you have them. When you do roll live, again, have a purpose: work on what you drilled, work on the answers you were given, don’t just roll to roll. You don’t have time to waste, so don’t waste any time.
When you’re not at the academy, in addition to solo drilling, you should read about BJJ or watch BJJ videos, again with a purpose: this activity outside of class should fuel your questions & techniques in class. Watch and break down tournament footage, instructional series, and videos of specific techniques (e.g., check YouTube for a specific technique, and then watch how all the high-level guys do it. Each will have something slightly different.). Definitely definitely keep some sort of journal/notebook to write things down & remember them, and consider asking to record things in class, so you can review when you’re home.
Is there any other activity that you can do frequently that will help your BJJ? Wrestling and judo are the ones that come immediately to mind, but even other sports will help keep you in a “training” frame of mind and will help with body awareness & movement. Also, yoga.
And, if all else fails and you’re stuck with one day/week of BJJ training and can’t do much outside of class until you can make your own decisions about how & where you spend your time, then just remember that the mats will still be there. They won’t go anywhere, and BJJ will be around for a long, long time. When you can train as full-time as you like, BJJ will be waiting there with open mats and plenty of clock chokes.
What advice does everyone else have?